Our minds are constantly making up stories about what things mean. Particularly about what other people’s behavior means about us. What other people do is rarely about us, it is about them.
Read MoreWhat creates life, vitality, and productivity in any system, individual or group is the movement of energy. The biggest problems occur when there is stagnant energy, think of a log jam in a river. In all systems stagnant energy creates a back up of energy that shows up and can be identified in each individual in the form of stress, anxiety, frustration, depression, suppression, worry… These are all markers for stagnant energy.
Read MoreMoney is one way we can predict, to some extent, how secure we will be in the future. Money is stored energy. You engage in work that you are good at and store your effort and skill in the form of money for use in the future. It is important to develop a deep respect for money (your effort), and how it is used in your life, while not making it the center of your life.
Read MoreInquiry Method has a powerful tool for knowing if what you are doing actually serves you. It is called light and heavy. We are used to using our minds and our thoughts to make decisions. This is important for learning facts and analyzing a situation but not very useful to see if something is right for you.
Read MoreIn finding retreat sites for experiences I used to be a hard negotiator. I would get the price down to the least amount, the best deal I could get. I just figured that it was good business and I was a good negotiator. Then when I got there I was surprised about a negative attitude, problems, and issues.
Read MoreIn physics, at a very small scale, they have found that the act of observation impacts the outcome and the data produced. The same is true in your business.As a leader, what you notice, what you pay attention to is your most powerful leadership tool.
Read MoreAs I have spoken before, the Inquiry Leadership model approaches leadership from the idea of mentoring and developing people. In this model the primary relationship between a leader and employee is as a mentor. In this view the mentee is the hero and the leader is the supporter. I like to think of the relationship between King Arthur and Merlin.
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What is your reaction to being controlled?I can always detect control, because when my system recognizes control, I resist. It may be subtle, but I can feel the beginning of a sense of resistance. To free myself from this resistance to being controlled, I simply give myself a choice about what I want to do. How can you tell if you are being controlling? You will feel or experience resistance from the other person. This is 100% effective.
Read MoreInquiry Method is the process of freeing ourselves from all ideas about how things, people, or we should be and getting interested in how they are. From this understanding we have the opportunity to author (to create) our lives based on “what is,” rather than on what we think should be.
Read MoreMost of us in our culture are perfectionists, we are taught to judge. As we look around we think this is good, this is bad. We may get more sophisticated and judge “this is better”, “that could use some improvement”, “that should not be like that”. We can also turn it on ourselves and judge “if only I was”, “that was stupid”, “I am too…”, “I am amazing”, “I know how that should be”, ...
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