Getting Out of the Trap of Your Feelings
Kyle is presently leading a group of students through the Inquiry Method Training Program, where he is teaching them how to communicate, lead, and coach through the brilliant process of the Inquiry Method. On Saturday, we had a workshop and he was explaining his theory on the Levels of Oneself. He said, when a person is at Level 1 they are not okay with what they are feeling and the way to move them up to a higher level is to show them that what’s arising is okay.
In this video blog, Kyle explains his thoughts on feelings, that they are natural, what they are useful for, and how to move through them without getting stuck in them.
Key Take-Aways:
A lot of people think they aren’t supposed to feel things. NO! You’re supposed to feel things! The biggest problem is not in the feeling itself but the denial of that feeling. Many times we judge that we shouldn’t feel something and try to push the feeling away instead of listening to it. Feelings often have good information for us.
Almost all of the things that we’re feeling have nothing to do with what’s going on right now in the moment. Most of the time in the moment things are absolutely fine. If they aren’t, and you need to take action to resolve something then do that and you can be done worrying, stressing, etc. and come back to right now.
In our culture it’s easy to get caught up in being busy and ignore our feelings. This time of being home and slowing down allows us to finally practice being with ourselves and whatever is arising.
When we can stop identifying with a feeling, when we can move from “I am angry,” to “I feel angry,” then we can start to see that there is a choice around how we experience the world.
If you’d like to learn more about the Levels of Oneself you can take the online video course here.